Relationships: Will I Shoot My Shot?
I once bought an expensive wristwatch for a guy I really liked because I felt it would be a reference point when we finally date. Well, it never happened. It was my indirect way to shoot my shot though. *covers face* Loooong post alert! Hehehe
Valentine’s day is tomorrow, who is excited? Not me. I’ve been a crusher, crushing on different guys for different reasons. I’ve never crushed on a guy because of his looks except Cristiano Ronaldo who is my eternal crush. Lol.
I can go on about the many experiences I’ve had, liking a guy so much and for some reason think he ‘should’ ask me out.
There’s this sudden ‘weak affection’ that comes with wanting what you can’t have. It’s exciting and equally depressing. Sometimes he’s right underneath your nostrils teasing and taunting your emotions.
My mind seem to act silly the moment I’m interested in any guy. I’m suddenly soft. I smile to myself a lot and activate my stalker element. I’ll dedicate time to checking out his social media pages, go through every picture and every caption trying to connect some invisible dot. I can’t help myself, the less I see, the more my curiosity intensifies.
With all the stalking and scattered emotions, have I ever told a guy how I felt? Yes. Not once.
I never thought I would but I did. Some ended well, others didn’t. In a particular case, we laughed about it and he ended up being my friend.
The one that peppered me the most was the awkward incident of voicing out my feelings to a male friend I was close to. We’ve been friends for quite a while and like any girl, it once crossed my mind to date him. Until it got to a time that we became so close.
He was the one I told everything to and loved to hang out with, I guess that built the feelings. I became so worried because he was my friend. It was hard feeling that way.
At some point, I felt the feeling was mutual and all. Well, I thought long and hard about letting him know. I discouraged myself from doing that, I didn’t want to lose his friendship for any reason. One fateful day, I felt the rush of Adrenaline to tell him believing he would understand. Oh boy, it was so hard to type those words. The response I got was, ‘I’m going to sleep.’ Sleep???!
That was the last time we ever talked about it. He went to sleep and left me hanging. It was stupid!
I wished I never did and when we saw after a long time, I wished I kept my petty feelings to myself. Funny how I didn’t feel the same way later on and wondered what possessed me to even welcome such.
If there’s anything I’ve noticed about crushing on anyone, it’s temporary. If it lingers long enough, maybe its something else. At that moment, emotions are flying all over the place and you think your feelings can’t be wrong. Feelings are deceitful and derailing.
How do you tell someone you just want them in your life without sounding desperate? You’ve nursed this feeling so badly that you just want to explode. When you finally do, the dude goes mute or replies with, ‘Thank you, I’m glad you see at me that way…’ What about the, ‘You’re a very nice person though…’ Some guys even add it to their personality like a badge. You hear something like, ‘You know a lot of girls have crushed on me?’ So what?
On my WhatsApp status I asked the ladies on my contact, if they’ve taken Simi’s Joromi approach and the responses were quite interesting. There was a lady that said she ended up dating the guy for two years after she opened up about her feelings. Well, there was a case of a guy that never said anything to the lady till date.
What about the point where he chooses someone over you, and she happens to be your friend…arrrgh! Let’s not go over the jealousy that naturally builds and the mathematics of how he saw her and not you.
In my honest opinion, there’s no point telling a guy how you feel about him. It’s tough to let go of the feelings but give it time, it would definitely pass. Some guys that are friends to these ladies, tend to notice the fondness and refuse to act like they do.
I cherish my friendship with my male friends and I believe they do the same. I think its hard to have the same relationship you had as friends in a romantic relationship though.
There’s the liking the guy more than he likes you part. This makes it hard for the ladies if they decide to date. Naturally, she’ll put in more into the relationship and if he doesn’t like her enough things goes south.
Here is my comment on Rofiah’s blog;
Ah! I’m dancing right now 💃🏽 I’m glad I inspired you and your readers love it 😉
About shooting shot, Sweetheart I won’t (I’ll give full details in a post that’s coming up) I’ve crushed on so many guys (crush ambassador😆) and I tell myself that I need to shoot my shot but Mba I don’t and I always thank my stars for not doing it. Can you imagine the disappointment you would have felt when you eventually try and the guy is not worth such emotion? If he’s believes you’re the one, he won’t pass the ball around. He would aim for goal.
Eventually you would end up not liking him as much as you thought. ☺️ You just inspired me to rant my own 😁
I’ll like to know what you think, kindly drop your comments on any of these questions.
- As a lady, would you shoot your shot and have you ever tried?
- If you tried, what happened?
- Do you think ladies should bother trying?
- Guys, do you know when a lady is crushing on you and what do you expect her to do about it?
- Guys, if a lady tells you how she feels about you, what do you think of her?
Thank you for reading!
Till I write to you again.
Lots of love,